You've built your life around keeping others comfortable often at the cost of your own needs, boundaries, and self-respect.

You say yes when you mean no, shrink yourself to avoid conflict, and measure your worth by whether the people around you are happy.

This has likely been the number one thing sabotaging your relationships with women.

Why?

Healthy relationships require attraction, respect and admiration.

An emotionally healthy woman is unlikely to feel this for a man who's existence is centred around pleasing her.

In general, women do not want a man who abandons himself to please her.

This is one of the most reliable ways to attract dysfunctional women and co-create bad relationships.

To fix this, you must learn to respect, admire and please yourself FIRST. Without this, nothing else is possible.

This is a process of recovery, and it must become a priority in your life.

The quality of your relationships with women is a reflection of the quality of your relationship with yourself. It's a mirror.

The best way to recover is with a group of other men walking the same path.

There are just too many important aspects of recovery that are simply impossible to do alone.

If you're feeling brave, I want to extend an invitation to you.

My men's group runs every week and it's actively about helping men shift from chronic people pleasing into confident, assertive leadership.

The kind that a healthy woman genuinely craves.

Check it out here.

See you there.

Oliver