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Stop pleasing. Start leading.
High-impact coaching for driven men ready to start getting what they want in love, life and relationships.
You’re here because something isn’t sitting right.
Maybe you’ve ticked some boxes in your career, gym, even dating.
But underneath it all, there’s a quiet frustration.
You freeze up around people.
You overthink everything.
You struggle to speak your truth (to women, to colleagues ... even to yourself).
You shrink yourself to keep the peace and never rock the boat.
You feel like a fake "nice guy" with others while your true self never shines through.
And even when people like you, it doesn't feel real or fulfilling.
Deep down, you don’t fully respect yourself.
And you sense others don’t either.
You’re tired of carrying that.
You’re tired of feeling stuck, small, and overlooked.
And you're tired of unsatisfying relationships where you feel more like a roommate, an emotional punching bag or a caretaker than a lover.
It's time to start getting what YOU want, brother.
Because like all of us ... you fucking deserve it.
Our work together will help you find your voice, set clear boundaries, and lead from a place of truth — not fear.
If you’re ready to stop performing and start showing up as the man you know you are, let’s talk.
WHAT I HELP MY CLIENTS WITH
This is about becoming yourself without the fear, the mask, or the performance.
Together, we’ll work to:
– Build a stronger, healthier and more honest relationship with yourself.
– Let go of the Nice Guy mask, start saying what you actually mean and showing up as your true self in any interaction.
– Get confident with women without game-playing or manipulation.
– Release shame around your attraction, desire and sexuality so you can start asking for what you want (and getting it!).
– Lead in love, sex, and relationships from grounded masculine energy (in the authentic way your ideal woman craves).
– Clarify your values, standards and mission and start living like they matter (because they do).
If this sounds like something you want in your life, here's my approach.
My approach: pleaser to leader
You’ll follow a clear, simple and effective journey with deep self-reflection, challenge and high-level guidance to help you drop the mask, reclaim your power, and embody grounded masculine leadership.
🎭 Drop the Mask
Let go of the approval-seeking habits and reclaim your self-respect.
• Spot and dismantle your Nice Guy patterns.
• Release people-pleasing, guilt, and approval addiction.
• Set boundaries and start communicating with clarity.
• Step into emotional honesty and real self-respect.
🧘🏻♂️ heal the boy
Face your emotions, process old wounds, and build deep inner strength.
• Heal the root causes of people-pleasing.
• Reconnect with your inner child and restore self-trust.
• Process shame, anger, grief, and old trauma.
• Develop the capacity to stay grounded in discomfort and intensity.
🔥 lead your life
Live in alignment. Lead with confidence. Attract what you truly want.
• Define the man you want to be—and start living it now.
• Speak up, assert yourself, and own your truth.
• Lead with strength in dating, relationships, and purpose.
• Integrate everything and step forward as the man you came here to be.
HOW IT WORKS
Two simple options for getting started based on your current needs and situation:
1️⃣ single clarity session
for those ready for a single breakthrough
This is a focused 1:1 coaching session to help you get unstuck and move forward with confidence.
✔️ Break through a specific challenge.
✔️ Identify hidden blind spots.
✔️ Receive direct, supportive feedback.
✔️ Walk away with clear tools and direction.
You’ll also receive a full session replay and action plan.
If you’re not ready for the full 12 weeks but you want clarity, support, and honest guidance, this is for you.
2️⃣ Free Exploration Call
Best if you’re considering long term work.
Not sure if this is the right fit? Let’s talk it through.
This free 30 minute call is a chance to explore your challenges, goals, and the coaching journey. We’ll get clear on what’s holding you back and whether this work is the right next step.
✔️ No pressure, just honest conversation.
✔️ Space to reflect, ask questions, and be heard.
✔️ Clarity on your patterns and your potential.
✔️ A real plan forward whether we work together or not.
WHAT MY CLIENTS SAY
This work changes lives.
Here’s what happens when men stop living for approval and start leading their lives with truth, confidence, and purpose.
Watch these stories and hear what happens when the mask comes off.
Kin became a confident leader with women
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Luis conquered 10 years of social anxiety
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Why I Do This Work
I’m Oliver. A psychologically trained coach who’s coached over 150 men — from CEOs to creatives to everyday guys with drive.
I used to be a high-functioning Nice Guy ... terrified of rejection, disconnected from my own needs, and obsessed with proving myself.
I burned out chasing approval and success on everyone else’s terms.
Eventually, I decided I’d rather lose people than keep losing myself.
Now I help other men do the same.
I believe that masculine confidence is not about performance.
It’s about alignment. Truth. And the courage to lead yourself.
If that hits ... I’ll see you on the call.
Faq
Nope. If you resonate with my content, I work with your regardless of gender and sexual orientation. I specialise in working with men but I can adapt my methods to suit you.
The price for the single clarity session is £250 but the cost of ongoing work together depends on a range of factors. But it will be in the four figure range so be prepared for that before booking a free call with me.
Therapy tends to focus on long term, past-focused work that's directed by you. A therapist is unlikely to make recommendations or direct the interaction, often allowing you to go through your own process. This can be very valuable. However, I am not a therapist and I do not focus heavily on the past. I am a guide here to focus on the present and the future to create lasting and meaningful change. That being said, the responsibility for change whether it's coaching or therapy ... is squarely on your shoulders.
I have some clients who see me once every fortnight but the majority of my clients see me on a weekly basis. I recommend, at a minimum, seeing me every 2 weeks to maintain momentum and to stay engaged in your personal growth journey.
My sessions are 60 minutes. However, there are certain sessions where we go much deeper than usual. In these cases I allow for 90 minutes.
I trained as a person-centred (humanistic) counsellor for three years. I first kicked off my career helping people as a personal trainer when I was 18. My niche was always psychology, mindset and behaviour change. I have self-taught in shadow work, therapy, self-development and other topics since then. In terms of formal trainining (with letters next to my name) I do not formally have any. My expertise comes from lived experienced applying my teaching principles to my own life and those of my clients.
I have been working as a men's self-development coach for around 4 years at this point. Prior to that I was a personal trainer for over 7 years. I think in total I've worked with over 300 people privately. It's mad.