Alright, mate.
If you’ve ever struggled to set boundaries…
If you avoid conflict, even when it costs you something…
If you constantly wear the “nice guy” mask, trying to be the good man that everyone approves of…
Then I want to ask you something straight up:
At what point were you taught that your anger was a bad thing?
For me, it started young.
I was obsessed with Bruce Lee, martial arts, toy soldiers … anything with fire, fight, and intensity.
But one time, I drew a violent picture at school and my teacher told my parents.
They went ballistic.
They took away my favourite game on the Nintendo (DOOM).
They threw my toy guns and soldiers in the trash.
I wanted to learn Tae Kwon Do more than anything in the world.
They said no.
The deeper message was clear:
“Oliver, your fire is dangerous. Hide it.”
From that moment, I buried my anger, fire and even my passion.
I put on the good boy mask.
And I paid the price when I went to high school.
I got bullied. Beat up. I froze up. I lacked a backbone and got walked all over, devastating my confidence and self-worth.
I carried this through into my relationships as an adult.
Mr nice-guy. Ollie the people-pleaser. Smiling on the outside … dying on the inside.
And when my girlfriend at the time finally lost all respect for me… that was my wake-up call.
I learned that the world doesn’t respect a man who’s disconnected from his anger.
So I got in contact with it.
I started speaking to my rage.
I did breathwork.
I went to men’s retreats.
I screamed. I wept. I started speaking my mind.
Setting boundaries. Speaking up when someone pissed me off.
Cut people out of my life. Call out bullshit when I see it. Say NO to invitations without feeling guilty.
And I gave my inner child something he always wanted but never got.
I went back to martial arts to be like Bruce Lee … my first ever role model.
This wasn’t easy, mate.
But eventually… I found self-respect.
And I want that for you too.
So let me ask you:
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Where in your life are you tolerating things you shouldn’t?
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Where are you abandoning yourself to keep the peace?
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How can you start showing up as the unapologetic and un-fuck-withable man you are?
If you’re ready to stop pleasing everyone, start reclaiming your power, kill the inner nice guy and finally reclaim your backbone…
So you can become the unapologetic, guilt-free, calm, confident, attractive and authentic man others respect and admire?
This month, I’m launching something for men like you:
Kill the Nice Guy
An 8-week group coaching cohort to help you break free from people-pleasing and reclaim your power.
You’ll get:
✅ Weekly group coaching calls
✅ My step-by-step "Pleaser to Leader" roadmap (usually reserved for my 1:1 clients only).
✅ Deep healing meditations to release stuck fear, anxiety, shame and low self-esteem.
✅ Proven methods amd techniques to let go of your inner Nice Guy
✅ Brotherhood, accountability & real support from men on the same path
This is your chance to stop abandoning yourself and start commanding respect.
Early bird tickets go live May 19th.
Spots will be limited.
I’ll be shouting from the rooftops when it’s ready…
But if you already know you want in…
Just reply to this email with one word:
"Leader."
Stay courageous,
Oliver
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