This will change your life if you actually embody it.

And I’m not even joking.

If it scares you, it’s a sign you should do it.

But you also need to care about who you become through doing that thing.

I’m scared of base jumping. But do I want to become a base jumper?

No. So I don’t do it.

But most of the things you’re avoiding in dating are things that … if you did them … it would massively improve your life.

Imagine if you didn’t avoid ANY OF IT.

Imagine what kind of man you would become on the other side?

Let me give you two concrete examples.

When I first did my salsa class, Cuban salsa, my first two lessons, I almost had a panic attack.

My inner boy was freaking out.

A ton of beautiful women expecting me to lead them… and I couldn’t.

I was shit at it.

But I stuck it out. I kept going.

Because I knew I wanted to be the kind of man who can dance.

The kind of man who can lead a woman, be competent and confident in his body, and move well.

Same with my first improv class.

I felt ridiculous. Silly. Stupid. I was nervous. I kept freezing up.

But I wanted to be the kind of guy who can let go, detach from the outcome, be playful, spontaneous, and just say whatever comes to mind.

Because that’s what makes you attractive.

That’s what makes conversations flow and full of connection.

That’s what stops you overthinking every text and every interaction.

So here’s what I want you to do:

Reply to this email and tell me what you’re going to do.

And if you know a man who needs this, forward it to him.

Now here’s the real question:

What’s one thing you’ve been avoiding in dating that you know would change everything if you actually did it consistently?

Let me know.

Stay courageous,

Oliver