Alright mate,
I’m going to keep this simple.
If your relationships keep going wrong, or you keep feeling stuck, unseen, frustrated, or like you have to wear a bit of a mask around people, there’s a decent chance the real problem is people-pleasing.
Not “being nice.”
People-pleasing.
That habit of shrinking yourself, not saying what you really think, keeping the peace, and trying to be the version of you that gets approval.
And the annoying thing is, it probably started as a useful strategy.
At some point in your life, that was the move that helped you stay safe, get accepted, or avoid conflict.
But as an adult, it stops working.
It makes you anxious.
It makes you fake on dates.
It makes you overthink everything.
And it slowly trains people to tolerate the version of you that isn’t really you.
That’s why I’m running a live workshop this Sunday called Kill the Nice Guy.
It’s a 2-hour workshop, plus a 30-minute Q&A at the end, where I’ll show you how to start dropping the people-pleasing pattern for good.
We’ll cover:
What people-pleasing actually is.
Why approval addiction keeps you stuck.
How to stop self-abandoning.
How to set boundaries and speak honestly without turning into an asshole.
How to drop the passivity and handle conflict powerfully in a way that inspires respect
You’ll also get the downloadable PDFs from the session and a 28-day recovery plan so you can keep working on this after the workshop ends.
If you want to start changing this properly, grab your spot here.
More details coming over the next few days.
For now, just notice where you’re holding back, over-explaining, or trying to keep everyone comfortable.
That’s usually where the real work is.
Stay courageous,
Oliver
