Ever feel like you’re living for everyone but yourself?
What if “being nice” is the very thing that’s holding you back?
If you’ve ever bent over backwards to keep the peace, apologized when you did nothing wrong, or said “yes” when you wanted to scream “no,” you’re not alone.
After coaching over 100 men, and hundreds more in groups, I’ve seen it time and again:
People-pleasing is the silent killer of men’s self-respect and relationships.
You put everyone else’s needs before your own.
You say “yes” when you want to say “no.”
You tolerate disrespect because you’re afraid of conflict.
It doesn’t just show up at work or with friends.
It shows up in your relationships too.
The women you’re most drawn to lose interest fast, and the ones who stay often drain you.
It doesn’t sound harmful until you realize it’s sapping your energy, time, and sense of self.
Over time, you forget who you are.
You live on everyone else’s terms except your own.
When I speak to men stuck in this pattern, I see it instantly:
Hunched shoulders, forced smile, eyes empty, just trying to hold it together
If this is you .. it’s not your fault.
Somewhere along the way, you learned to value everyone else above yourself.
But the truth is…
You can’t be respected until you respect yourself.
So how do we start doing that?
One word: boundaries.
Boundaries aren’t about being an asshole or selfish.
They’re about protecting your peace and teaching others how to treat you.
Boundaries give you freedom in your life and relationships
Boundaries create respect from others and yourself
Boundaries make you immune to manipulation and games
The truth is … if people never face consequences for crossing you, they’ll never take you seriously.
Because nobody (especially women) respects a harmless man.
And being a harmless man isn’t the same as being a good man.
A truly good man is a man with sharp teeth.
But sharpening your teeth isn’t as simple as “set boundaries.”
It’s a skill you build.
And it’s one that most men were never taught.
That’s why I’m running Rock Solid Boundaries, a live 2-hour workshop on November 15th at 5 PM GMT.
In this workshop, you’ll learn:
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What boundaries are (and what they ARE NOT)
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How to set boundaries without guilt or drama
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How to spot boundary crosses (even subtle ones)
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What to say and do when someone crosses the line
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How to carry yourself so people respect you at work, with friends, and in relationships
There are only 30 spaces, and the first 10 tickets are £47 (early bird).
After that, it’s £77.
For less than the price of a single session with a mediocre therapist, you’ll gain skills that last a lifetime.
Ready to step into self-respect?
👉 Learn more and reserve your spot here
(early bird slots selling out fast so don’t wait)
This workshop will change how you carry yourself and how people treat you forever.
Stay courageous,
Oliver